Sermon Text: Acts 7:55-60
The Rev. Craig MacColl
(Note: The following sermon was originally written in response to the movie “Dead Man Walking.” Towards the end of the movie, when Sr. Helen Prejeun, played by actress Susan Sarandon, goes to visit a husband and wife whose daughter was murdered by a convict, played by Sean Penn, the couple kicks Prejeun out of their house and they seem to bare their teeth in rage that she has become the convict’s spiritual advisor. The couple’s angry response to Sr. Helen seemed very similiar to the reaction of the members of the synagogue of the Freedmen when they heard Stephen accuse them of being “stiff-necked people.” The sermon was not and is not intended to take a position on the death penalty, but, in light of the Supreme Court’s recent ruling, and the reenstatement of executions by a number of states, Stephen’s act of forgiveness for those who stone him to death makes one wonder about how far we are to go in seeking to be reconciled with those who hurt or injure us.)
I never knew that grinding one’s teeth while sleeping was such a big deal until, several years ago, my dentist told met that I needed what he called a “splint” to wear at night. I asked him what it would cost and he said, “$4.95” like it was one of those cheep and awful tasting rubber mouth guards we used to have to wear for my high school football team. It turned out to be $495 worth of carefully molded plastic and ever since then I’ve taken teeth grinding very seriously!
But I’ve always wondered what makes us grind our teeth at night. In the security of deep sleep are we free to say things to people we’d never say to them to their face? In the darkness of night, do we feel safe enough to express anger and rage that we would repress in the light of day?
Rage, anger and teeth grinding – this was the prelude to the stoning of Stephen the deacon in our first reading from the book of Acts. What had Stephen done to suddenly unleash all this repressed anger and hostility? This was no dream or fantasy. For the crowd gathered to listen to Stephen, teeth grinding led to stone-throwing, which led to execution. Stephen never realized that teeth grinding could be such a big deal. By the time he found out, it was too late. He paid for it with his life.
What a contrast to just a few weeks before. Stephen and his other six deacons were doing “meals on wheels” for the local shut-ins. The deacons showed up at the local synagogue, collected their allotments of pita bread, rice and garbonzo beans - no styrofoam containers, just heavy clay pots and bowls, probably loaded on a donkey instead of in a minivan - and went out to do that wonderful, unexciting ministry they had been given by the other disciples.
But how did Stephen get from this unexciting ministry of food distribution to the dangerous world of public speaking? Some of you may remember a survey that was done several years ago that showed that 41% of adults in America live in fear of having to stand up and speak in public – something that Stephen did at the drop of a hat. But, I don’t think Stephen knew what to expect. After all, he wasn’t a trained public speaker or a political candidate who knew how to spin words. Stephen was a lot like us. What makes us so afraid of public speaking is that we’re going to say something we didn’t plan to say and insult somebody by mistake. We’re not just going to hurt someone’s feelings, we’re going to make them angry, make them grind their teeth.
We never know exactly what to expect when we get involved in the ministry of the church do we? God doesn’t give us a “how-to” manual. For two years, while I was in seminary at St. Stephen’s House in Oxford, I prayed twice a day before a mural of the stoning of St. Stephen. It never occurred to me that what was happening to Stephen could happen to me! I don’t mean literally, being stoned, but teeth-grinding and rage from people who I had made angry by something I did or said.
I couldn’t predict what it would be like to find myself in between angry couples or feuding families or disgruntled parishioners. But this is often where we find the risen Christ – in the middle…where words and emotions fly like rocks….where teeth grinding leads to rage.
In the gospel from two weeks ago, we heard how the risen Christ appeared to the disciples in the breaking of bread after their walk to Emmaus. The broken bread opened their eyes to the broken body of Jesus. The broken body opened their eyes to the presence of the risen body. Sometimes, what gets broken when we proclaim the gospel, is not just bread, but ourselves. But it’s not something we prepare for. It usually just happens whenever we get caught in the middle. But what we can prepare for is something that Stephen did. As Stephen was being stoned to death, he knelt down and said, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” As Stephen dies we hear the echo of Jesus from the Cross: “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” This willingness to forgive the people who have hurt us…this is a ministry we can prepare for, because it goes right to the heart of what we believe about God – that death and suffering are not God’s final word….resurrection and reconciliation are God’s final word. Stephen knew the power of the risen Christ and he was able to forgive his own murderers.
Some of you might remember the movie, “Dead Man Walking” that came out a few years ago, starring Susan Sarandon and Sean Penn. The movie tells the story of a Roman Catholic nun, Sister Helen Prejaun who decides to take up the cause of a man accused of brutally murdering a young couple. The accused murderer, played by Penn, is a hard person to feel sorry for. He’s a con man and claims to admire Adolph Hitler.
Sister Helen is drawn from the important but unglamorous ministry of teaching low-income adults to read, to a strange and unfamiliar, but more controversial ministry of seeking a reprieve from the death penalty for a convict. Like Stephen, Sister Helen is surprised when she is caught in between the rightness of a righteous cause, and the rage of the victims’ families. It’s not clear why she’s there until the end. When she goes to the home of one set of parents to support and console them, they become enraged when they discover that she has not switched over to “their side,” but has decided to be the convict’s spiritual advisor. They bear their teeth in disgust and rage as they demand she leave the house.
But the father in the other set of parents, lets Sister Helen in his house and, as they talk, they begin to share their mutual sadness and brokenness. They share with each other their realization that, as much as we want to find someone to blame, someone to spew out our anger on, we have to let go of the rage and move on.
The movie ends with Sister Helen and this man praying together in a church. The father didn’t forget his anger, but, because Sister Helen was there in the middle, he was able to begin the process of healing and reconciliation. God was there in the middle, in between these two people searching for an answer to their brokenness. And God is there for us too. When we are caught in the middle of a family argument…. caught in the middle when people criticize us when we have said or done something to hurt their feelings….caught in the middle when emotions fly like rocks in our marriages.
Recently, another Stephen - Steve Boydston, a parishioner here at Good Shepherd, shared with me another powerful story about reconciliation. In an account Steve wrote, he says, “In 1976 a 17-year-old boy lived across the street from my family. He was very quiet, very polite, but unfortunately, a little slow. As so often happens with a child that is different, the other children made fun of him. My 15 year-old sister was different; she befriended him, took him under her wing and was possibly his best friend. Ironically, when the pressure became too great he snapped. She was the only one there. He took her life and she became my first angel. I did what most people do under similar circumstances. I began to pray. I asked God to give her back, to allow me to wake up in the morning and discover it was all just a bad dream. It wasn’t a dream, so I changed my prayer.
“I held onto the hope that her death was swift and she did not suffer. This last hope was taken away. After my sister’s body was found the young man made a complete confession including all the graphic details. These were passed on to me by a local police officer, a friend of the family. I will not go into the details; suffice it to say, her death was neither swift nor merciful. For twenty years, without missing a day, I asked God to strike the young man dead and send him to hell. While many may understand my anger, it was a terrible prayer that went unanswered.
“Several years later, after the birth of my first daughter, the hate in my heart began to subside. But then, one day, I received another phone call. The caller thought I might like to know that the young man that had taken my sister’s life had been released from incarceration in an asylum years before and was living a free life. When I hung up the phone, the bitterness and anger rushed over me like a flood.”
This episode brought Steve to a breaking point, and he was forced to make a decision to give up his prayer and focus his efforts on raising his children to learn to live with such experiences. But years later, when his daughter was mistreated by another child, the anger returned. He thought he had stopped hating and had forgiven his sister’s murderer, but he hadn’t. And Steve had to make another decision. He turned to the Lord’s prayer: “Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” After praying for twenty years that God would strike a young man dead, Steve came to the awareness that he had been asking God to carry out his will instead of God’s will. He had declared himself the judge and jury and had asked God to be the executioner. Steve says, “The first step was to ask God to forgive me for over twenty years of hate. Just as I believe God has forgiven me for my not-so- Christian prayer, I have forgiven the young man that took my sister’s life.” Steve concludes, “Each day I recite a new prayer for the young man that had taken my sister’s life. I have turned the man’s fate over to God and I ask God to forgive and help him. I made a choice between returning to hatred or practicing forgiveness.”
Whenever God calls us beyond doing something that is merely helpful to doing something that brings healing and reconciliation…God is there, because that’s where Jesus was. When that happens, don’t let the sound of teeth grinding…don’t let your own feelings of hate or your prayers for revenge drive you away. God may be calling us to do what is at the heart of it all – being Christ to others; responding to rage with reconciliation.
Don’t be afraid, Jesus is there. He is risen. The Good Shepherd has gone before us to lead us into the valley of the shadow of death where we will fear no evil, where with Sister Helen, Steve Boydston, and a host of saints and martyrs, we will answer the grinding of teeth with Stephen’s smile.